Does this make my Butt Look too Big?

By: Peter

Well I don’t really think this. It’s not is it? Actually I was just using this as a metaphor. A metaphor for what Writers do — or at least what I have learned in my communication with many other Writers (not all — at least some don’t admit it).

At first I thought it was just me, but I have found that it is a pretty common occurrence among Writers.

“What is?” Willow tilted her head and looked at me like I had too heads.

At least not a big butt! “The metaphor.” Why can’t she see the obvious.

“What metaphor?”

Okay, I guess maybe it isn’t so obvious. “First off Writers are a contradiction.”

“Duh!” Willow smiles.

“Funny. That isn’t exactly what I meant. Well yes I did, but I didn’t”

Laughing Willow pointed at me, “Contradiction.”

“Grrr!” Sometimes it was really hard. If she weren’t so damn creative. “What I meant was that the old cliché Is my Butt too Big? is about insecurity. Writers are a very insecure lot. When they are just starting off they are worried that they will not be good enough to be published. That their work is pitiful at best. Once they get published they wonder if it was a fluke and they will never publish another book. Even after several books they may go through anxiety about losing it.  In the end they are constantly agonizing over if they are good or not.”

“All of them?” Her look skeptical.

“Probably not all, but many I know.”

“So what is the contradiction?” She was nothing but questions tonight.

“Most Writers are insecure.” I started to explain.

“We already covered that.” She interrupted.

Remember she is creative, remember she is creative, remember she is creative. “Regardless. While demonstrating a lack of confidence at times, it takes quite a big ego to think that you can create words that people might actually pay to read.”

“Well you definitely have the ego part covered.”  She thought she was funny.

“Yes,” I have to give her credit for that one, “but even so I am still constantly looking for validation that I can actually make it as a Writer.”

Maybe you are thinking that it is just me. I did at first. But I am not the only one. There is even an Insecure Writers Support Group. Its stated purpose is To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds!

And the first Wednesday of every month these Writers post to blogs about their doubts and the fears they have conquered. Discuss their struggles and triumphs. Offer a word of encouragement for others who are struggling. Visit others in the group and connect with their fellow writers.

Again this may not apply to every Writer, but many Writers need constant encouragement. So, if you run into a Writer, even if you don’t like their work, tell them what a great Writer they are. Wait a minute. If you meet me and tell me that I am a great Writer. Does that mean that you don’t think I am? How can I know if you are telling the truth?

Willow just looks at me and shakes her head “Contradiction”.

One Response to “Does this make my Butt Look too Big?”

  1. Kirsten says:

    Very well put, especially the last part!
    It seems the insecurities are never ending, which makes you wonder why we even do it, doesn’t it?
    It’s good to stick together in this fun adventure we call writing. :)

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